Cancer, better known as the “Big C,” is a negative word altogether, however, I always try to find the positive in every negative situation.

Here a just a few things the big C has taught me:

It has taught me what it means to have the faith of a mustard seed. My relationship with God has never been stronger.

It has taught me to trust the process. Sis, you cannot control everything that you go through. Everything does not have to happen the way you think it should. Make informed decisions without worry and fear and then TRUST THE PROCESS.

It has taught me to be thankful for the little things. We often forget to be thankful for the little things in life like waking up, breathing, the usage of limbs, fresh air, sunshine, walking, being able to talk, etc. I am currently in therapy for lymphedema in my right arm and hand. Guess what? I am right-handed! I am not able to use my right arm and hand like I used to; however, I am pushing through and being grateful I still have a hand and arm to use, even if it is not fully functioning.

It has taught me to love unconditionally even if it has to be from a distance. We all have fallen short of effectively communicating our feelings with others. I fall short when it comes to tactfulness. I am still learning how to be more tactful and not so direct when communicating with others especially those in my family. In the past, I have held grudges after disagreements. Now, if I have disagreements with my loved ones, I do not hold grudges. I give them the space they need while still loving them no less than I did the day before.

It has taught me resilience. Resilience, resilience, resilience…when I look at all the things I have been through dealing with the “Big C,” I cannot even believe it. I have dealt with chemo, a mastectomy, partial hysterectomy, radiation, lymphedema, depression, and losing my job. Yet I still stand, stronger than ever.

It has taught me true love. I am talking about the love I have for myself. I understand more about myself and my body than I ever have. I now know beauty has nothing to do with hair, makeup, etc. It has all to do with learning who you are, forgiving yourself for mishaps, and loving every part of the natural you. When you genuinely love yourself, your inner beauty radiates outward.

Stay positive, focused, and always love yourself!